This reasoning also assumes that we simply reject any potential partner who doesn't match our ideals. A team of researchers at the University of Toronto is offering a radical new idea about why we make so many poor relationship choices: We're too nice.According to Samantha Joel and her colleagues, the human mind has strong and automatic prosocial tendencies -- we don't like inflicting social pain -- and this deep-rooted kindness keeps men and women from rejecting partners -- even incompatible partners. Karen: Hey, no need to be sore and sensitive about that still.
I checked the website Eater for its Heat Map, which includes new, tasty restaurants in the city. The stunning fact remained: it was quicker for my dad to find a wife than it is for me to decide where to eat dinner.
What's more, we are unaware of our generosity's power.
We think we will be picky about our romantic partners, but in reality, rejecting people is easier said than done.
If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?
The question nagged at me—not least because of my own experiences watching promising relationships peter out over text message—so I set out on a mission.